In the US, the average age for people to divorce is 30, and it is projected that more than 50% of people divorce between the ages of 25 and 39. The decision to divorce is a very difficult one. Divorce has a long-lasting and far-reaching impact on your life. Worries over when to divorce are common. Many people start thinking about divorce long before they even meet with an attorney.
There are many concerns people have when deciding on when to initiate a divorce. Two of the most common concerns revolve around how one will afford a lawyer and how the divorce will impact one’s children. The decision is also affected by what instigated the divorce and worries about what your life will be like after a divorce. No matter what, it is a complicated decision, and the answer is different for everyone.
Commonly cited reasons for divorce include:
- Disagreements over how to raise children
- Financial issues and disagreements
- General dissatisfaction with the marriage
- Domestic violence
- Substance abuse and addiction issues
Below we discuss two of the greatest concerns people have regarding the timing of their divorce.
Divorcing When You Have Kids
The concern about how a divorce will affect their children is perhaps the greatest concern people have. Unfortunately, there is no easy answer to this worry. Some people believe that the sooner you divorce, the better. Meanwhile, others advocate for waiting until the kids are out of the house to divorce. While your divorce will impact your children no matter what, every family is different, and you must make the best decision for you and your family. You should also resist comparing your situation to other people’s.
If you are struggling with this decision, you should consider working with a therapist or family counselor. Living in an unhappy marriage and the decision to divorce are both emotionally and mentally difficult. Your mental health matters, and you deserve support. A therapist or counselor may be able to help you and your family during this difficult time. They may also be able to provide you with advice and guidance on supporting your children through a divorce.
It is also important that you secure legal representation as soon as possible. A skilled attorney can not only provide you with divorce representation, but they can also help you deal with child custody and support matters. An experienced lawyer can also help illuminate what going through a divorce with children may be like and what you can expect throughout the process.
Child Custody & Child Support
Many people have a lot of anxiety when they think about having to come to a custody and child support agreement. Further still, parents often fear losing access to their children or not being able to support them financially if they leave their spouse. Some parents may even use the children as pawns and may try to intimidate their spouse into staying. However, in the eyes of the law, both parents have the same rights and responsibilities when it comes to their children.
Generally speaking, when making custody and support decisions, the courts are focused on creating an order that is in the child’s best interest. This means that they are focused on ensuring that the child has meaningful and appropriate access to both parents and that they continue to enjoy the same financial stability they would have had their parents stayed together.
If you are considering a divorce and have children, you should speak with an attorney as soon as possible. Your lawyer can help you prepare for court and can help you fight to protect your parental rights.
Enforcing Custody & Support Orders
It is not uncommon for parents to fear that their child’s other parent will not uphold their end of a custody or child support agreement. However, custody and support orders are legally binding. If your former spouse refuses to comply with the order, you have the option to petition the courts for enforcement of the order. If you are in a situation where you need enforcement, reach out to one of our attorneys for guidance.
Conversely, if you are a divorced parent and are concerned that you cannot comply with your custody or support order, you should also reach out to a lawyer right away. Depending on your circumstances, you may have the option to apply for a modification.
Divorce Over 50
Another major concern people have over the timing of a divorce is whether they should get divorced late in life. While divorce is never easy, those who divorce over 50 do face some unique challenges. In addition to having children to consider, couples who are approaching or are retirement age also have a unique financial position to consider.
Issues people over 50 should consider when divorcing include:
- The division of pensions and retirement benefits
- Tax consequences
- Increased living expenses
- A potential loss of health insurance
Many people who divorce over 50 have also noted that their social lives dramatically changed. Many couples, especially those who have been married for a long time, have a shared social circle. After a divorce, this can shift, and sometimes people feel like they have to “pick a side.” Though transitioning to your new single life may be isolating at first, most people report that this was not permanent. As they explored their new lives, they developed new relationships and friendships.
Divorce can be an isolating, difficult experience. However, this does not mean that you have to stay in an unhappy marriage. No matter what stage of life you are in or your family situation, our law firm is here to help. We have guided countless people through the divorce process, and we have experience handling all types of divorce cases. If you need help with your divorce, reach out to us today.