While the holidays are traditionally a time of family get-togethers and joyful celebration, this time of year can be particularly rough for individuals who have recently divorced. In addition to magnifying feelings of loneliness, the holidays can trigger painful memories of past relationships and reopen wounds that may have only just begun to heal. Fortunately, there are several things that divorced spouses can do to alleviate the gloom and restore some holiday cheer.
- Spend time with family: Many divorced spouses fall into the trap of feeling lonely and isolate themselves during the holidays. Instead, make plans to spend time with those who you love most. Seeing your family and friends will not only serve as a reminder that there are still people who care about you, but it will also prove that you can still have a good time without your ex.
- Take a vacation: Unable to make plans to see friends and family? Try taking a trip to escape your situation and the associated memories. Travel somewhere you have always wanted to go and treat yourself. Relax and recharge!
- Make new traditions: One of the many reasons why the holidays can be difficult after a divorce is that it can cause you to dwell on past traditions and miss them. While you may want to hold onto these traditions, it is a good idea to create some new rituals with friends and family.
- Be realistic: Even in happy marriages, picture perfect holidays are rarely a reality. Having realistic expectations can help you avoid disappointment, especially during the first year after your divorce.
- Take care of yourself: Get enough sleep, exercise, and have a healthy diet. While overeating or partying may be easy ways to help alleviate the pain, they will only create more problems for you in the long run.
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Nobody should have to go through a divorce alone, especially during the holidays. At Hanson, Gorian, Bradford & Hanich, our compassionate Riverside County divorce attorneys can guide you step-by-step through this time of transition and ensure your best interests are protected every step of the way.