Divorce can be as sudden as it can be confusing, but that does not have to prevent you from dealing with it on your terms. With proper preparation and some general knowledge about the process, you can really start to understand what is going on, and how you can uphold your best interests.
If you are facing a divorce, whether filed by you, your spouse, or both of you, considering these 5 things can help you avoid unnecessary stress:
1. Spousal Support
One way or another, either you or your ex is going to require spousal support payments to maintain a comfortable lifestyle after the divorce finalizes. The court will typically consider who makes more, or who has the potential to make more income and grant alimony to the other spouse for a set period of time. Try to talk to your spouse before the court gets involved to determine a fair amount.
2. Property Division
The odds of you keeping everything that you shared with your spouse after a divorce are slim to none. When marital property is divided in California, it is often done equitably or done in a way that gives an equal amount of total property value to each spouse. Consider what you really want to hang onto now and start forming your argument as to why it should remain yours.
Child custody and child support are grounds for frequent and heated debates between divorcing parents. No one wants to think about having to spend time away from their kids, but it may be necessary to keep the peace. Also, you need to think that your children will probably not be as happy as they could be if they never get to see your ex. If there is a middle ground, you need to find it for their sakes.
There is not just one way to dissolve a marriage. You might be headed towards an uncontested divorce with little conflict, contested divorce with high stakes, or even mediation, which utilizes a neutral legal party to sort matters out in the middle. Preparing for the approach to your divorce is key to your success.
5. Retaining an Attorney You Can Believe In
Family law disputes can get less-than-pretty if they are not handled by an experienced and compassionate lawyer. At Hanson, Gorian, Bradford & Hanich, our Murrieta divorce attorneys are always focused on your rights and needs, but also on keeping things as stress-free as possible. In fact, Attorney Danica Hanich is Board Certified in Family Law by the California Board of Legal Specialization, highlighting her great ability to resolve even the toughest disputes effectively and peacefully.