What Is Parental Alienation Syndrome?
There are, sadly, many consequences to a divorce. One of the side effects
that have been researched in recent years is parental alienation syndrome
(PAS). Parental alienation occurs when one parent actively tries to prevent
a child from spending time with the other parent. It is typically committed
by the custodial parent against the non-custodial parent, although it
may occur in virtually any type of
child custody or
Recognizing the signs of parental alienation syndrome and taking immediate action to assert your parental rights are important
if you are to maintain a meaningful relationship with your child or children.
Let a Riverside
family law attorney help you protect your right to your children at this time.
Call our firm to benefit from our attorneys' experience.
Get a Riverside Family Lawyer on Your Side
PAS is a serious obstacle for parents who want to guard the relationship
with their children after
divorce. At Hanson, Gorian, Bradford & Hanich, we are qualified to help protect
your family, even in the midst of alienation. Our lawyers have handled
more than 5,000 cases over 50+ years of shared experience, and Attorney
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Board Certified in Family Law by the California Board of Legal Specialization. Let us protect your rights
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How Do You Stop Parental Alienation?
Children are easily affected parental alienation because they are already
dealing with feelings of insecurity, fear, and sadness. Parental alienation
does things to a child emotionally that can last the rest of their life.
It can sow seeds of pain, anger, and doubt that are based on a parent's lies.
The reasons parents choose to do this vary, but they are often motivated
by revenge, jealousy, anger, or even money. This type of behavior not
only affects the alienated parent, but also the children at the end of
the day. If your former spouse is using lies and manipulation to turn
your child and make them think you are the enemy, then there are steps
you can take to stop this.
Types of conduct that may eventually lead to parental alienation include:
- Preventing the other parent from contacting the child
- Frequently scheduling events or trips with the child at times where the
other parent has visitation or custody
- Frequently complaining to the child about the other parent's faults
- Intercepting mail, phone calls or presents from the other parent to the child
- Instilling fear into the child that the other parent will do him or her harm
- Acting hurt or betrayed when the child shows affection for the other parent
Research has found that children who have been victimized by parental manipulation
can suffer from lifelong emotional trauma. If one parent is attempting
to turn their child against the other, they often unknowingly create feelings
of insecurity and lowered self-esteem in the child—who is essentially
used as a pawn to obtain a more favorable divorce settlement or custody
agreement. Not only is this behavior considered abusive, but it is something
that no child or parent should have to endure.
You may have a legitimate fear that your current custody agreement is going
to breed this alienation syndrome. With little time spent between you
and your children, your former bond may not ever be the way that it once
was. The alienation can, unfortunately, go both ways. While the child
can withdraw themselves from a relationship with the non-custodial parent,
the parent can conversely withdraw themselves from the attention and care
that they once gave their children. Children are an extremely sensitive
issue when coming to an agreement on custody. If you are not satisfied
with your current parenting plan, then you may be able to petition for a
Taking Legal Action
If you are being alienated by your child and former spouse as a result
of untrue manipulations, you should not hesitate to take legal action
before the problem becomes worse. When your former spouse is failing to
keep your child's best interests in mind, it is your responsibility
to do so. With the help of a qualified attorney, you can explore the options
that are available to you under these particular circumstances.
If your lawyer proves that parental alienation is occurring, the at-fault
parent will be ordered to stop this behavior. You may even be granted
more time with your child through a modified custody or visitation arrangement.
Trust an Experienced Family Law Firm
With 50% of marriages ending in divorce, almost one million children are
affected each year. In
uncontested divorce cases, the parents are able to come to an agreement regarding custody and
child support; however, 10% of divorces involve some kind of custody battle. As each
parent wants the best for their family, this sensitive topic can be difficult
to negotiate without the help of a seasoned attorney.
A lawyer from our firm could act as a
mediator in these cases and help you avoid going to court. If court is necessary,
we could be a strong advocate for you and your children. Learn how we
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