"Happy Holidays!" your friends proclaim. Outwardly, you're
smiling, but what about on the inside? It's a different story. An
divorce can cast a shadow on anything, but the emotional turmoil seems to be amplified
during the holidays.
In the midst of parties and holiday cheer, the last thing you want to be
is a downer. If you're heading into this season and are unsure how
to keep your spirits up, keep reading. The tips below are sure to make
the holidays merry and bright.
Six Tips to Stay Joyful this Holiday Season
If you have children, this one is especially pertinent. Kids thrive on
routines and the holidays are no different. Pick out a tree as a family,
decorate gingerbread houses, or go caroling. Whatever it is, sticking
with the traditions you've done in years past helps to maintain a
sense of normalcy and may even stir up some genuine holiday spirit.
Take care of yourself.
Letting yourself go only makes things worse, so make an effort to treat
yourself right. Get enough sleep and go easy on the alcohol. An extra
glass of wine here and there may make it easier to cope, but it's
not going to help in the long run. Consider splurging on a massage before
the holidays get too crazy – anything to raise your spirits.
Surround yourself with people you love.
The holidays force close proximity to family (whether you like it or not),
but in the face of an impending divorce, it may actually be beneficial!
Those who know you best can share some of the burden and lend a listening
ear or an extra set of hands when it's needed. Isolating yourself
tends to perpetuate the sadness and depression.
Fit in some volunteering.
Taking your eyes
off yourself is harder than it sounds, but it allows you to recognize how much
you do have and helps minimize the gloom. The holidays are full of opportunities
to volunteer, whether it's heading to a soup kitchen or wrapping presents
for those less fortunate. By the time you're done, the warm and fuzzy
feelings will have infiltrated your heart, too.
Make a plan for the coming weeks so you know what to expect. If staying
busy keeps the sadness at bay, schedule fun events for you and your family.
Simply allowing the days to pass without a plan often leads to emotional
breakdowns that you weren't expecting.
Take it one day at a time.
Sure, your divorce might be right around the corner, but
it's not here yet. Enjoy the holidays as much as you can and save the worrying for another
day. As you immerse yourself in the spirit of the season, it becomes much
easier keep the future from tarnishing the present.
At our firm, we know that the holidays can be tough. We're here to
offer compassionate legal counsel for whatever you're facing and can
make your upcoming divorce as smooth as possible. Don't hesitate to
contact our Riverside divorce attorney to schedule your
free case evaluation!